When your parents and grandparents were married, the face of
Hindu weddings was completely different. In those times, a wedding was a grand
affair of 7 to 8 days where every member of both the families would be present
to bless the couple. A variety of traditions would be seen to be followed on
both the girl’s and boy’s side. A wedding was considered a joyous union of two
families.
But now, times have changed. In fact, even when you got
married a few years ago, traditions had been modernized. Instead of a long 8
day affair where every ritual was practiced rigidly with minute details,
wedding has now been cut down to a one or two day function involving
engagement, haldi ceremony and the wedding. With modernization, there are many
important rituals that have been left out. Moreover, those practices that are
performed today are also being cut short. For example, the sacred seven vows
used to be a prolonged process, which is now completed in only a matter of few
minutes! Furthermore, instead of following the customs of Samdhi Milap, Var
Nikasi and Katha Vachan, people are now adopting more westernized traditions
like pre-wedding cocktail parties, DJ parties and dance performances.
But, however modernized our customs become, one thing is for
sure – the ‘pag phere’ or the seven
vows of marriage cannot be eliminated as they stand to be an important part of
a Hindu wedding. These seven vows create a deep bond between the bride and
groom for life as these are the seven promises both of them make to each other
to lead a happy and prosperous life together.
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First vow – The bride and groom promise to care
for and support each other throughout their lifetime.
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Second vow – They promise to be one in mental,
physical and spiritual strength, no matter what the circumstances.
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Third vow – In case of every situation of joy
and sorrow, they promise to share and be by each other’s side every time.
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Fourth vow – They promise to attain happiness
and harmony through mutual trust and love to enjoy a life of joy and
togetherness.
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Fifth vow – The bride and groom promise to be
responsible parents to raise children of value.
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Sixth vow – They promise to enjoy a balanced and
harmonious life by strengthening and maintaining all family relationships.
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Seventh vow – They pledge that they will always
lead a life of complete companionship, unity, loyalty, love and understanding.
But then, why do we see so many separations – so many
divorces? Why can’t we abide by all these promises we make to each other while
getting married? Is this because we have eliminated all the rigid procedures
and customs from our weddings? Is it because we don’t take the traditions,
rites and rituals seriously, and are more concerned about getting done with the
wedding functions as soon as possible? Could be possible! But don’t worry. If
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success in your most important relationship with your spouse. So, this wedding
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